Ali was nervous about a challenging conversation she had to have at work and it didn’t go to plan. What does Jennifer think Ali should do?
In the audio exercises below, Jennifer coaches Ali through her issue to help her find the best solution. They talk through a role play of the meeting with the company manager, and discuss ways to approach these conversations in the future.
Part 1: The situation
In the first part, Jennifer and Ali role play Ali’s challenging situation.
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The situation This clip is 3:33 minutes.
Part 2: A mindfulness practice
To begin focusing on appropriate solutions to Ali’s situation, Jennifer guides Ali through a mindfulness practice to help her focus on her intentions and goals.
A mindfulness practice This clip is 2:07 minutes.
Part 3: Revisiting the situation
Jennifer and Ali perform the role play situation again, this time applying a four-step approach to the conversation.
Revisiting the situation This clip is 2:13 minutes.
Part 4: Jennifer’s advice
Jennifer concludes the coaching session by summarising what they did and offering guidance for the future.
Jennifer’s advice This clip is 3:35 minutes.
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Jennifer’s top tips for challenging conversations
Step 1: Prior to a difficult conversation, remember to do a brief calming exercise. This will help to root you and therefore allow you to enter a meeting with an open and non-judgmental mind.
Step 2: Determine no more than three intentions for your meeting. What do you want your manager or colleague to think, feel and do?
Step 3: Once you’re in your meeting, do the following:
- Stay connected to your breath – this is your anchor which you can always come back to.
- Try to engage with eye contact.
- Be mindful of your body language, and open the chest with your shoulders dropped back and down. In your head, say “release” and breathe in to any portions of the body in which you are carrying tension.
- Finally, show up as yourself 100% and know that contrast and challenge is actually the greatest opportunity for growth. Enjoy the fact that difficult conversations give room for beneficial change.
Jennifer’s four-step approach to challenging conversations
- State what happened.
- Say how it made you feel.
- Explain how it impacts your work.
- Make a recommendation on how to improve the situation.