Skip to 0 minutes and 12 seconds Me and my parents now have, like, a mutual agreement that they trust that I’ll get the things done that I need to get done, like my homework and cleaning my room. I don’t always do it straight away, but it gets done. I still, then, get to prioritise stuff that I enjoy, like meeting my friends and playing on my Xbox. It was important that my parents knew where I was coming from so that we could find the middle ground, rather than arguing like we did daily. So now, that it’s more of a happy environment, and I’m allowed to do things I want to do, but they also get their way, as well. It all works out.
Young person's view: Keeping positive as a parent
Often there is a middle ground agreement that means both parents and teenager are happy. It’s important to remember that doing more of what matters to them is likely to improve their mood, even if it’s not ideal in your eyes.
In this video clip we hear how Jack and his parents managed to come to an agreement on activities, and how doing more of what is important to him helped him feel better. Please note: For the purposes of the course, these characters are played by actors but based on real case examples.
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