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Skip to 0 minutes and 27 seconds Hi Jack. How are you doing today? Good. Good.

Skip to 0 minutes and 34 seconds How do you think I’m doing? There’s obviously something wrong with me. Here we go again. What do I have to do to get through to him? You know, your mum and I were talking recently. We were saying you haven’t had any of your friends over recently. And you know, we haven’t given you a lift to Dan’s or Bob’s. Do you fancy going and seeing one of your mates? I’m fine. No?

Skip to 1 minute and 5 seconds I’m pathetic. I’ve got no friends. I wish I could just make him feel better. I mean, I could give you a lift today. I’ve got time. I’ll happily give you a lift.

Skip to 1 minute and 20 seconds I’m useless, a disappointment to both of you. I don’t know where the old Jack has gone. What about tomorrow? I’ve got time, actually, almost all day. In the morning or, well, you’re not gonna want the morning. You’re never up. But in the afternoon, I could give you a lift in the afternoon. I’ll just relax. I need my parents to get friends for me. I bet they wouldn’t want to see me anyway. Your mum and I were saying that we’re really, it’s really good that you can relax. But you don’t see your mates. You don’t help around the house. You don’t, I mean, your mum said your room looks like a bomb site. You need to tidy to your room.

Skip to 2 minutes and 19 seconds Oh, come on.

Skip to 2 minutes and 22 seconds I’m no good at anything. I’m messy and a waste of space.

Skip to 2 minutes and 29 seconds Jack, you need to tidy your room. It’s fine. I can’t believe I just lost my temper with him. I don’t know what to do. This is hard. Dad’s losing his patience with me. What’s the point of me being here anyway? I’m a hopeless case.

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Skip to 3 minutes and 11 seconds I’m really doing such a bad job as a parent. It’s hopeless. Jack’s never gonna get any better. I think he doesn’t even like me anymore. Yeah. It’s never gonna get any better. Dad thinks I’m such a loser.

You say, they hear: Part 2

In this video, we watch the same scene again but this time from a different perspective. See how Jack and Pete speak to each other to demonstrate miscommunication (how they perceive the conversation differently) where their thoughts are revealed.

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Understanding Depression and Low Mood in Young People

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