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Skip to 0 minutes and 48 seconds GERRY: Mum. Mum.

Skip to 0 minutes and 50 seconds IRENE: Oh. Oh.

Skip to 0 minutes and 52 seconds GERRY: Mum, I miss Dad, too, but if you’d wanted to visit, you should have just said. We could have come together.

Skip to 1 minute and 6 seconds Mum, this isn’t– this isn’t even Dad’s grave.

Skip to 1 minute and 12 seconds IRENE: It’s not?

Skip to 1 minute and 12 seconds GERRY: No.

Skip to 1 minute and 31 seconds ROSEMARY: You want a cuppa, sweetie?

Skip to 1 minute and 32 seconds HEATHER: No.

Skip to 1 minute and 34 seconds ROSEMARY: Biscuit?

Skip to 1 minute and 35 seconds HEATHER: No.

Skip to 1 minute and 36 seconds ROSEMARY: What is it, darling? I don’t have any coffee.

Skip to 1 minute and 39 seconds HEATHER: I got stupid care homes again.

Skip to 1 minute and 42 seconds ROSEMARY: Oh, really, did you?

Skip to 1 minute and 44 seconds HEATHER: Yes.

Skip to 1 minute and 45 seconds ROSEMARY: You need to know something, young lady.

Skip to 1 minute and 47 seconds HEATHER: Oh, here we go with the young lady. Go on, then, why don’t you tell me how much harder you had it when you were my age. Go on.

Skip to 1 minute and 55 seconds ROSEMARY: I rolled up my sleeves and got on with it. I didn’t magically become a specialist one day. I started at the bottom with all the other nurses, and I worked hard at it. And, yes, it was tiring, and yes, the bowel ward was literally shitty, but I just got on with it. I didn’t let it put me down, and I knew, I just knew I was making a difference to the patients.

Skip to 2 minutes and 17 seconds HEATHER: Mum, but care home.

Skip to 2 minutes and 20 seconds ROSEMARY: But nothing, they deserve the same health and care as anyone else.

Skip to 2 minutes and 31 seconds CHARLOTTE: Awright, Nan? Have you gone anywhere nice for your holidays?

Skip to 2 minutes and 35 seconds GERRY: It wasn’t even the right grave, Charlotte.

Skip to 2 minutes and 39 seconds CHARLOTTE: What’s he on about now?

Skip to 2 minutes and 40 seconds IRENE: You know how Gerald has these tantrums. He’s just a spoiled boy. Not like you, Elaine, you’re well behaved, aren’t ya?

Skip to 2 minutes and 49 seconds CHARLOTTE: I’m Charlie, Nan.

Skip to 2 minutes and 51 seconds IRENE: Well, put your jumper on then. Don’t just sit there and complain about it.

Skip to 2 minutes and 56 seconds CHARLOTTE: Nan.

Skip to 2 minutes and 58 seconds IRENE: Charlotte, I’m winding you up.

Skip to 3 minutes and 0 seconds CHARLOTTE: Don’t do that. It does my head in. This whole thing does my head in.

Skip to 3 minutes and 6 seconds IRENE: Where’s that fellow of yours?

Skip to 3 minutes and 10 seconds CHARLOTTE: Dunno. Working. He’ll be here later. Do you like him?

Skip to 3 minutes and 15 seconds IRENE: I do like him. Do you like him?

Skip to 3 minutes and 17 seconds CHARLOTTE: I do like him, Nan. I do. He’s thoughtful. Like he’s always bringing me water or a blanket.

Skip to 3 minutes and 24 seconds IRENE: He’s a keeper. He’d be good with horses too.

Skip to 3 minutes and 27 seconds CHARLOTTE: Yeah, he probably would be good with horses.

Skip to 3 minutes and 31 seconds IRENE: What does he do then?

Skip to 3 minutes and 33 seconds CHARLOTTE: He sells eggs.

Skip to 3 minutes and 34 seconds IRENE: Lovely. Does he like that?

Skip to 3 minutes and 37 seconds CHARLOTTE: I think so. He used to do the shredding. They’d go around offices and they’d bring out reports and papers, and then he’d put it in the back of the van and shred them in a big shedder.

Skip to 3 minutes and 49 seconds IRENE: And he’s not doing that anymore?

Skip to 3 minutes and 51 seconds CHARLOTTE: Nah. He got allergies from all the paper dust.

Skip to 3 minutes and 53 seconds IRENE: Ah. He’s a nice boy. Are you going to marry him?

Skip to 3 minutes and 58 seconds CHARLOTTE: Why are you asking that?

Skip to 4 minutes and 0 seconds IRENE: I always say if you’re going to marry a man he should be able to look after you at the bank and between the sheets.

Skip to 4 minutes and 9 seconds CHARLOTTE: Nan.

Skip to 4 minutes and 9 seconds IRENE: Oh, well.

Skip to 4 minutes and 12 seconds CHARLOTTE: Not much spare money.

Skip to 4 minutes and 15 seconds GUY: All right?

Skip to 4 minutes and 16 seconds IRENE: One out of two’s not bad.

Skip to 4 minutes and 27 seconds ELAINE: I wish Dad had of met you. He would have liked you.

Skip to 4 minutes and 30 seconds TIMOTHY: Oh, really?

Skip to 4 minutes and 31 seconds ELAINE: No, he would have judged you. He would have thinked you severely lacking in some department or another, or held you up to some ridiculously high standard he had.

Skip to 4 minutes and 39 seconds TIMOTHY: Hm. Oh.

Skip to 4 minutes and 42 seconds ELAINE: Then he would have ignored you and pretended not to know you.

Skip to 4 minutes and 47 seconds TIMOTHY: Great.

Skip to 4 minutes and 49 seconds ELAINE: Yeah, he managed to forget David’s name the whole 22 years we were married. Yeah, the roofer, that’s what he called him. And he said it with such disdain. My god, the roofer.

Skip to 5 minutes and 3 seconds TIMOTHY: What do you think he would’ve called me?

Skip to 5 minutes and 5 seconds ELAINE: I don’t think he would have bothered thinking anything up for you. I mean, he wasn’t even a roofer. Well, he worked on roofs, but he had a building firm and he had people who worked for him.

Skip to 5 minutes and 15 seconds TIMOTHY: Did he? Yeah.

Skip to 5 minutes and 21 seconds ELAINE: Now I don’t want you to be offended, Tim, but–

Skip to 5 minutes and 27 seconds TIMOTHY: Oh, here we go.

Skip to 5 minutes and 29 seconds ELAINE: Don’t be so defensive already.

Skip to 5 minutes and 31 seconds TIMOTHY: I’m not.

Skip to 5 minutes and 33 seconds ELAINE: OK, it’s about work.

Skip to 5 minutes and 35 seconds TIMOTHY: You want to talk about work? No. Here?

Skip to 5 minutes and 39 seconds ELAINE: Well, when can we talk about it? When?

Skip to 5 minutes and 41 seconds TIMOTHY: I don’t know.

Skip to 5 minutes and 44 seconds ELAINE: It’s not about you. It’s about Mum. She’s left to her own devices, we don’t know what’s going to happen. You go to work every day, but we’re not seeing a benefit to it.

Skip to 5 minutes and 57 seconds No, no, no. Don’t get cross. Don’t get angry. I just think it’s practical. It’s practical. I mean, until things pick up, you could stay at home and look after Mum. I can’t drop my hours because we wouldn’t get by.

Skip to 6 minutes and 11 seconds TIMOTHY: It’s not just my work. Everything’s the same everywhere. It’s not just me.

Skip to 6 minutes and 17 seconds ELAINE: But this is not about you. It’s about Mum. I can’t leave her on her own any longer. I dread to think of what could happen next.

Skip to 6 minutes and 26 seconds TIMOTHY: The honeymoon.

Skip to 6 minutes and 27 seconds ELAINE: What? What are you bringing that up for?

Skip to 6 minutes and 29 seconds TIMOTHY: What happened on our honeymoon?

Skip to 6 minutes and 32 seconds ELAINE: We didn’t have it, but we will.

Skip to 6 minutes and 35 seconds TIMOTHY: That’s when you moved your mother in. We never had a honeymoon. We never will. And if you think that I’m staying home every day to look after her, I mean, she’s not even my mother.

Skip to 6 minutes and 47 seconds ELAINE: Oh, Tim, I didn’t think it would be like that. I really didn’t. It was only going to be a short break. She wasn’t letting me into the house to look after her or do anything

Skip to 6 minutes and 56 seconds TIMOTHY: I really think you’re undermining me. I won’t have it.

Skip to 7 minutes and 1 second ELAINE: It’s really not like that, Tim.

Skip to 7 minutes and 6 seconds TIMOTHY: This is not on me. I never signed up for this.

Skip to 7 minutes and 19 seconds ELAINE: Oh, Dad, I wish you were still here.

Skip to 7 minutes and 32 seconds JACOB: I’ve done one with the fossils already. Why should I have to do it again? Plus, I learnt it all in like five minutes.

Skip to 7 minutes and 39 seconds HEATHER: What are you doing now?

Skip to 7 minutes and 41 seconds JACOB: Intensive care, Heather. Proper nursing. Saving lives. It’s real and it’s intense. You see, the clue’s in the name, intensive.

Skip to 7 minutes and 51 seconds HEATHER: I’m saving lives.

Skip to 7 minutes and 52 seconds CHLOE: That’s not the same thing though, is it?

Skip to 7 minutes and 54 seconds HEATHER: How not?

Skip to 7 minutes and 55 seconds CHLOE: They go in there to die.

Skip to 7 minutes and 57 seconds JACOB: And so what if they do? It’s a care home. Why would you bother saving them anyway?

Skip to 8 minutes and 2 seconds HEATHER: It’s not like that.

Skip to 8 minutes and 3 seconds LUCY: It Is. Heather, you’ll soon be as doolally as they are, and you’ll never get back into the NHS.

Skip to 8 minutes and 10 seconds HEATHER: Thanks a lot for your input, Lucy. Just you wait.

Skip to 8 minutes and 13 seconds JACOB: Look at me, Heather. Look at my face. I’m too young and far too handsome to work in a home.

Skip to 8 minutes and 20 seconds HEATHER: You are.

Skip to 8 minutes and 22 seconds JACOB: Thank you. Too kind. [MUFFLED YELLING]

Skip to 8 minutes and 44 seconds TIMOTHY: She’s not stopping.

Skip to 8 minutes and 46 seconds ELAINE: I thought she’d wear herself one. She’s done that recently. Run out of steam and gone back to sleep.

Skip to 8 minutes and 53 seconds TIMOTHY: It doesn’t sound like she’s in her bed.

Skip to 8 minutes and 58 seconds ELAINE: I’ll go down.

Skip to 9 minutes and 11 seconds IRENE: You get out of here. You go! Get away from me. Leave me be.

Skip to 9 minutes and 16 seconds ELAINE: Mum?

Skip to 9 minutes and 19 seconds IRENE: You get our of here.

Skip to 9 minutes and 20 seconds ELAINE: Mum?

Skip to 9 minutes and 21 seconds IRENE: You go. I don’t want you in here. I’ll call my father and he’ll hit you.

Skip to 9 minutes and 27 seconds ELAINE: Mum, there’s no one– there’s no one else here. It’s OK. There’s no one else here. Sh. Sh. It’s OK, Mum. It’s just a bad dream, Mum. Mum. Mum.

Skip to 9 minutes and 43 seconds IRENE: Oh, Daddy, help me.

Skip to 9 minutes and 45 seconds ELAINE: Sh. Sh. Sh.

Skip to 10 minutes and 19 seconds You could have told me you weren’t working today, Charlotte. You could have looked after Mum for me.

Skip to 10 minutes and 24 seconds CHARLOTTE: I didn’t know, did I? I never get the shifts or they cancel at the last minute.

Skip to 10 minutes and 28 seconds ELAINE: Are they allowed to do that?

Skip to 10 minutes and 30 seconds CHARLOTTE: Nan, do you want a sandwich?

Skip to 10 minutes and 34 seconds ELAINE: Charlotte, leave your Nan. She’s settled. She’s fine.

Skip to 10 minutes and 37 seconds CHARLOTTE: You don’t need to be so narky with me.

Skip to 10 minutes and 39 seconds ELAINE: I’m not getting narky, Charlotte. Please.

Skip to 10 minutes and 43 seconds CHARLOTTE: Nan, What are you doing this afternoon? We could go for a walk.

Skip to 10 minutes and 48 seconds ELAINE: Don’t mention walks to her Nan, she’ll start looking for a pair of shoes she had 30 years ago. Leave it alone. She’s fine.

Skip to 10 minutes and 57 seconds CHARLOTTE: So what then? We’re just going to leave here there all afternoon?

Skip to 11 minutes and 0 seconds ELAINE: No.

Skip to 11 minutes and 1 second CHARLOTTE: Yes. And we all have to be quiet until she goes to bed.

Skip to 11 minutes and 4 seconds ELAINE: Stop it, Charlotte.

Skip to 11 minutes and 5 seconds CHARLOTTE: No, I don’t want to be quiet. When’s the last time you went out, Mum?

Skip to 11 minutes and 8 seconds ELAINE: I go out.

Skip to 11 minutes and 9 seconds CHARLOTTE: When? Did you take her?

Skip to 11 minutes and 10 seconds ELAINE: I was out for two hours last night at the supermarket. I waited till she was asleep.

Skip to 11 minutes and 14 seconds CHARLOTTE: Is that it? Two hours in Asda? Can’t you see what’s happening here?

Skip to 11 minutes and 18 seconds ELAINE: Charlotte, I’ve been up half the night with her already. I’m cross-eyed with tiredness. Please, I don’t want to talk about this now.

Skip to 11 minutes and 23 seconds CHARLOTTE: So when are we supposed to talk about it?

Skip to 11 minutes and 25 seconds ELAINE: We’re not. I’m not talking about it.

Skip to 11 minutes and 27 seconds CHARLOTTE: When then?

Skip to 11 minutes and 28 seconds ELAINE: Not now.

Skip to 11 minutes and 29 seconds CHARLOTTE: I’m not leaving it. She’s my Nan.

Skip to 11 minutes and 32 seconds ELAINE: And she’s my mum. You think you have all the answers, Charlotte. Well, do you have an answer to this problem? Come on, let’s hear it. I’m all ears.

Skip to 11 minutes and 40 seconds CHARLOTTE: I don’t know.

Skip to 11 minutes and 42 seconds ELAINE: I knew it.

Skip to 11 minutes and 42 seconds CHARLOTTE: I mean, I do know. [NAN SINGING]

Skip to 11 minutes and 44 seconds CHARLOTTE: Just give you a minute to think.

Skip to 11 minutes and 46 seconds ELAINE: Look, look what you’ve done.

Skip to 11 minutes and 48 seconds CHARLOTTE: I haven’t done anything.

Skip to 11 minutes and 49 seconds ELAINE: You’ve unsettled her.

Skip to 11 minutes and 50 seconds CHARLOTTE: I haven’t. Have I, Nan? See, nothing?

Skip to 11 minutes and 54 seconds ELAINE: Why can’t you accept that I’m in control? Everything’s fine.

Skip to 11 minutes and 58 seconds CHARLOTTE: I haven’t done anything.

Skip to 12 minutes and 0 seconds ELAINE: This is your last warning, Charlotte.

Skip to 12 minutes and 2 seconds CHARLOTTE: I haven’t done anything, and why are you taking to me like I’m 8?

Skip to 12 minutes and 5 seconds ELAINE: Top shouting.

Skip to 12 minutes and 6 seconds CHARLOTTE: I’m not shouting.

Skip to 12 minutes and 7 seconds ELAINE: Yes, you are.

Skip to 12 minutes and 8 seconds CHARLOTTE: I’m not.

Skip to 12 minutes and 11 seconds GUY: Whoa, whoa. What is happening? Was is this? I could here it all the way down the street.

Skip to 12 minutes and 18 seconds CHARLOTTE: It’s her fault.

Skip to 12 minutes and 19 seconds GUY: All, right, guys, come on, let’s calm down. Have you all forgotten what’s been happening? Irene, she’s been out the door five times. She’s fallen four. It’s not getting any better. She’s upset Distressed. Look. It’s too risky. We can’t wait until something really bad happens, because then it’s going to be too late. How long is this going to go on? It’s OK, Nan. You don’t need to worry.

Skip to 12 minutes and 59 seconds IRENE: I want to go somewhere safe.

Skip to 13 minutes and 4 seconds ELAINE: You’re safe here, Mum. You’re safe.

Skip to 13 minutes and 7 seconds IRENE: I’m not safe. I’m scared. I’m so scared.

Skip to 13 minutes and 18 seconds I’m scared.

Skip to 13 minutes and 21 seconds ELAINE: I’m sorry. I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry.

Episode Two

Welcome back!

Before we get started with our team, let’s see how Irene and Heather are getting on…

This story, all names, characters, and incidents portrayed in this production are fictitious and whilst based on the experiences of real people, no identification with actual persons (living or deceased), places, buildings, and products is intended or should be inferred.

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