Discussing birth options with your partner
Feedback from your birth partnerYour birth partner may have suggestions for you, once they are aware of your own birth options or preferences. They might want to do more for you or be more involved in your birth options. It is important that you discuss suggestions with your birth partner now rather than discussing them for the first time when you are having contractions or in other situations where you may be distracted and unable to listen fully. Over time, you and your birth partner will be familiar with your birth options and preferences by talking through them. Doing this means your birth partner will be more confident in speaking up for you.From having these talks, you also might find out that your birth partner does not want to do some of the things that you have suggested.
- For example, you may want your birth partner to cut your baby’s cord, but your birth partner might not be comfortable doing this, or may not have realised how involved in the labour and birth that he or she will be, or how involved you would like him or her to be.
How to talk to your birth partnerHere are some questions that might help you bring up some of the trickier questions with your birth partner:
- Do you know what type of pain relief I would like to have?
- Would you feel comfortable cutting the baby’s cord?
- Do you want to see the baby’s head when it comes out?
- What type of support would I like when I am having contractions?
- At what stage would I like medical intervention (e.g. an epidural)?
- What type of birthing environment would I like (e.g. music, low light)?
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- What do you think are the benefits of your birth partner preparing themselves for your labour and birth?
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