Suzana Tomic
Resilience Trainer (ALH) to be.
Location Germany
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@DucLe yes, I want more hugs :-)
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Suzana Tomic replied to Suzana Tomic
Hey @DucLe, I at first started to heal my self, then to share my thoughts about some important topics like why it is not healthy to seek for happiness or what self love really means. I try to talk about it as much as it is possible and to connect with others. Asking for help is still something I do not often. I found out that my intuition is a really good...
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These words came to my mind: Take care of another, kindness, ethic, healthy mindset and love. I could find all of them in the video.
I was surprised, because of the many definitions Humanists!
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Hello everyone, this is my second course on futurelearn. This course resonated with me. I want to discover why. Let’s do this!
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@DucLe only decaf since a few months. :-)
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Suzana Tomic replied to Suzana Tomic
Hey @DucLe,
in my mental tool kit you will find strong reflectivity, an open mind, believe in my self, a strong spirit, optimism, the will to learn as much as I can. -
Suzana Tomic replied to Gordon Window
I agree on that!
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Suzana Tomic replied to manuela giasi
I didn’t knew, that there exist such a longitude study on this topic.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Graham Howard
Yes, >Lean in< I will keep this in mind.
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Setting the scene for a good conversation to create an atmosphere of trust. This is what I always like to do. This leads often into a really deep a long conversation.
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Yeah, I agree. Sometimes people like to talk nonsense. You can’t listen to them at level 3 all the time.
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Totally agree. Especially when working from home an we have online meetings. A colleague of mine often does her emails while we’re having a meeting, she rarely looks in the camera.
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@CHARLENEESCARIO this course will help you to
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Shure this course will help you to
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You´re right about crossing all three levels.
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I agree, and I think that it also depends on our mood.
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It depends on in which mood I am.
When I´m very mindfull, I can do active listening Level 3, especially with my mother. But I try to do every now and then in various situations and at my workplace, too. I found out that active listening on the workplace really helps me to understand the motivation behind the Action.
More often I listen on Level 1, when...
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Hello everybody,
my name is Suzana and I´m from Croatia. I live in germany and I´m currently in a resilience Trainee program. I want to develop my conversational and listening skills.
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I really enjoyed working on this course. The structure of the course was new to me. It helped me to discover things by my self and through this to learn more efficency. It could be helpful to add maybe some resilience models.
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I have one question. Klaus Grawe, a Psychotherapist, says that in order to become resilient we need to met our basic needs: bonding, control, self-worth and desire/reluctance. This kind a stuck with me. What do you guys think?
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Suzana Tomic replied to Carla Santos
Same here, Carla. But ce can make smal steps, right?
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Suzana Tomic replied to OMONI BANIGO
Yeah, me too.
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My main takeaway is: reflecting is key. This is me, always reflecting and on this course I discovered that this is defnently important. I can use my skills to help my colleagues become more resilient, too. Sharing our stories can also help others, there are so many techniques to discover. I understand now, that resilience is very complex, dynamic and...
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What an interesting Task, had to sleep many nighst over it. Never did a plan before. Here are my goals:
-sharing stories about resilience
-collect moments not things (positive Psychologie)
-educate myself
-finish my Resillience Trainer program
-become a Yin Yoga teacher -
Suzana Tomic replied to Carol L
I agree. To find one thing you have in common helps to build a special connection.
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This is lovely!
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What works best for me is to not take it personally what my colleagues say, to speak respectfully to listen mindfully and to understand, that we all habe our patterns.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Leanne S
Could be my story. Good Luck!
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I am crafting on my job since 2 years now. I was able to set a new focus and to create my day how I need (about 70%) it. And now during the pandemic, working from home helped to create it more. I often feel satisfied and find my job meaningful but sometimes I also get really bored- that’s natural.
Sometimes I ask for new projects or I do online courses, to...
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Resilience means to acquire skills to accept and survive adverse situations aware and trustful of your own capacities and grow on them.
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I used to drink coffee for years, until I find out that caffeine affects massively my sleep. I never wondered why my heart pounded, my faces flushed red or why I always felt in a hurry. Alcohol affects my sleep, too. Also learning to much, having long and deep conversations.
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Spot mediations I do often and I love it. But I really enjoyed the mindfulness check-in meditation- it’s so simple. I will keep that one I mind. Thank you for the tip!
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Sharing is caring, right? Let me know how it’s going.
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@NagaveenaByreddy which worksheet do you mean?
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Suzana Tomic replied to Louise Hoppit
Yes, replacing the old childhood experience with new healthy one is very important!
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Suzana Tomic replied to Louise Hoppit
I agree. @LouiseHoppit
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@CarlaSantos ok, now I understand and still: you have busy schedule.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Julia Vansan
Hi Julia, I’m from germany and also not fluent in english. But we will do it anyway, right?
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Suzana Tomic replied to Louise Hoppit
@LouiseHoppit
Hm, that would mean, that an infant knows what self care is or a value and so on. Maybe there are other elements for children? -
@ChrisLippiatt
There are so many techniques to meditate. I often meditate by myself without instruction.To be bored is not so bad. Actually, bordedom can increase creativity.
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Me too.
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@MelissaVartanian To let the thoughts pass like clouds sound so wonderful, but ain’t work for me.
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Respect , I don’t think I could handle that time zone thing!
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There was a time in my life, where i couldn’t stop thinking. My mind repeated sentences, words, situations and pictures every day and at anytime. I searched online and found a very good technique to quit thinking: The Mouse hole exercise.
Imagine you were a cat sitting in front of a mouse hole waiting the mouse to come out. Instead you just wait for thoughts... -
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A active listener is someone who:
- is present
- is able to say, when it’s enough
- ask questions
- who does not try to fix problems or shares his/her point of view
- who repeats wat he or she understood
- not judging -
Suzana Tomic replied to sue p
Same here.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Dipankar Mitra
Yes...the power of conversations.. can also open ones mind.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Susi D
This is a wonderful idea. I will give this a go.
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In an online course for graphic design we had to draw an unique icon for the 4 elements. At first I had no Idea how. But as I started to sketch a bit, ideas came up out of the nowhere. Surprisingly it turned out really nice.
I use prototyping very often at my workplace and for planing my career.
Prototyping opens your mind, which I always essential.
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As the current pandemic envolved we were forced to work from home. My WiFi connection was bad. There were times where The E-Mail page was loading between 1 to 2 minutes. And I ask my self, how should I be able to manage my workload. I started to get nervous and inpatient. Then I asked my self again, why are so mad about it? Where is the opportunity here?...
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Suzana Tomic replied to Mhiz Sayo
I will google it. Thank you!
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Suzana Tomic replied to Louise Hoppit
@LouiseHoppit you have reorganised the elements. That would mean without selfcare, one is not able to solve problems.
Am I right?
If so, then the elements wouldn’t be flexible. -
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I posted a colourful parachute in the sky. I know I have a mental tool kit. Each colour of the parachute stands for one skill.
I liked the image with the dragon and the shield and it says: This, too, shall pass.
Facing the situation and beeing optimistic, that’s how I am. -
Suzana Tomic replied to Louise Hoppit
I thought about that, too. But wouldn’t it be a static thing, when we would put it in order? Or did I misunderstood something?
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I have experienced those reinforcing elements by myself. As I reflected deeply what my skill on my workplace are, I was able to take more breaks, to take care of me, which automatically led to a more positive communication.
Excited about week 2!
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@CarlaSantos I feel you. I think we’re still resilient there’s no good or bad. It’s just our mindset. We can change if we want :).
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This is what I experienced, too. It helped me that other saw my potential. I also was told that I have potential, but I couldn’t see it until I discovered my potential by myself, if that makes sense...
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Sometimes it is necessary to be alone, to not be distracted or influenced.
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I often say that, too. Everything must! go through my own filter.
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Resilience Komgdom- wow!
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@TheresaAnyaOdey. Same here!
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a) My inner resources
About 5 years ago, I had an burn out and somehow I knew, that nobody couldn’t help me and it must be, that the problem lies in my thinking about the Situation. I managed to overcame the depression all by my self.b) The strength of others
I experienced a time where I felt an all over sadness and couldn’t identify where it comes... -
Suzana Tomic replied to Timara Marin
I love it.
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An ecological approach to resilience makes me think: -together we are stronger. -Everyone has something you can learn from
-a social safety net or so
-A collective resilienceI should definitely reach out more!
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Suzana Tomic replied to Erick Rojas
@DucLe you name it!
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@DucLe I appreciate that! I surely will.
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@WillyIfeanyiIkpolo yes :). I still wonder where that strong thought Came from...
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Through reading nearly all of the comments, I found out that not many mentioned attachment.
Not Comparing with others is also really good one (based on positive psychology). But also quite challenging in these days.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Mhiz Sayo
Uh, never heard of the 7C‘s but I like.
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I totally agree with you!
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That’s what I always say, too. There’s no one and only path!
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Thanks for sharing Louise. A very good read!
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Resilience always seemed to me as natural super power, something we are born with, but what must be ‚activated’. I found an article from Erika Kommisar, LCSW, on medium.com that says: Babies are not born resilient to stress but are born with the ability to become resilient if provided with the right environment. It’s an important distinction. Babies are born...
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Yes, stand with it!
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Suzana Tomic replied to Ursula Lodge
I like the ‚reflected learning‘.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Vicki Garner
I think, it’s important to act out of impulse as a young child. It has a learning effect.
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Yes, there were several times in my life where I trusted my intuition.
Sometimes my monkeymind gets in my way. But I did an online seminar where I learned how to differ monkeymind from intuition. And that’s what I practice everyday.
At first we need to know that intuition is in each of us. Over time we lost our intuition because of how we were raised...
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Suzana Tomic replied to Jack Suttie
I agree, but: We are never in control of things. Either if you know how to deal with, you still aren’t in control.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Theresa Anya Odey
That’s what came to my mind, too: flexibility.
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To become more generative during times of stability means to me: To be mindful and work on my ressource, learn everyday and collect moments not things. So when adversity occurs you have a rich mental tool box, which you can work with.
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We often tend to go against ‚negative’ /unwanted feelings or we try to avoid and push away. I found out that many people, so do I sometimes, think that we cannot deal with this feelings. But we can. It takes more Energy to go against as in accept and overcome. Often when I sit down an accept the situation how it is the problems seem not that big as expected....
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I like this! Very accurate.
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Totally interesting the different ways of resilience! I wonder why?
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I have noticed that there are to many different definitions of resilience. I wonder why? It’s a bit confusing. Is it more a process (The American Psychological Association, The road to resilience; Babette Renneberg, Phillipp Hammelstein) , an Immunsystem of the soul (Ella Gabriella Amann) or is it a more a capability (Rosmarie Welter-Enderlin, Bruno...
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Suzana Tomic replied to STEPHEN KABU OCANSEY
I thought about your comment for a while, but I can not fully agree. For me Resilience comes from inside and outside. Did you heard about those experiments they did with orphans in Romania? Those children didn’t get any social interaction. Most of them died and the adopted orphans still suffer. In The theory of attachment it says, that attachment increase...
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Suzana Tomic replied to Erick Rojas
I agree. I talked to a few resilient people and all of them marked, that a role model or a loving caregiver was fundamentally for building resilience.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Christine Nastos
I agree. Invincible must not be implied with some kind of hero or an ultimate state of mind. For me invincible means to be mentally strong and powerfull. Some days we are more resilient an invincible and others days less.
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Suzana Tomic replied to Lennard Neil Latina
Exactly.
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The more I thought about the question the more I come to the conclusion that, invincible and resilient are the same. This is what I’ve experienced over time. There were several situations I had to manage, and in every new situation I discovered other mental tools how to overcome those obstacles. And I understood that this is called resilience and then I felt...
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I also agree. Has to learn that to. But now it feels good to say ‚no‘!
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As I was 8 Years old and sick for a very long time, my father decided to leave the country with my mother and my sister. Because of my sickness he didn’t want to bring me with them. It was the beginning of the Balkan war 1991/92. I should stay at the hospital and then live at my uncles house. I loved my uncle. He was the best that could happened to me. But my...
