John Connor

John Connor

I am a 51 years old male. I’m currently attending Glasgow University 3rd year in community development. I’m a self motivated independent learner. I like socialising, going to the gyms, and family.

Location Glasgow


  • I like the methods we build in for behavioral strategies, I have not been rewarding myself as much as I would secretly like.

  • I agree with the suggested qualities of an effective follower; i keep myself abreast of new addiction and recovery models and legislation and use this to steer decision making by leaders.

  • I see myself as an "effective follower". If there is something I that's needing done, I will do it, I will accept direction; However, if something is being rushed through or it is unethical, I have no problem being assertive and saying no, with an explanation.

  • In our organization, we have a hierarchical structure, which works, however, I believe that if all members have an opportunity to develop in leadership roles, it would strengthen the structure of the organization.

  • I see followers and leaders as a joint will be nothing without the other.

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    This week, I am hoping to gain insight into the theory of leadership and followers and what makes both tick.

  • @LewinSmith: my research has shown that this does happen to white people though. I am not racist by any means, but coming from a place of research that this is and does happen.

  • I am looking forward to this section.

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    1) to research our policy on diversity in the work place.
    2) to influence the starting of discussions around the history of racism.
    3) To understand through reflection my white privilage and the power I have.

  • Hi Alley, I know from my on past experience, the narratives in my thought process were extremly bias, which I still sometimes feel ashamed about. I was scared to talk about them in case I said the wrong thing and my biases were revealed, even though I wanted to change. So shouldnt people be able to own them to change them ?

  • I liked the fact that we have been provided with techniques in previouse sections to challenge microaggressions.

  • It is so important to understand power and privilage; although I do not accept the status of "White privilage" myself, as I have also experienced harm from my on people, but I can see how this labeling may assisst others in overcoming social constructs, which are man made, and oppresive, based on race creed, religion, and colour.

  • Wow, I never thought of how our census seperates people by catagorising them. Eye opener !

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    Good to undrstand the differeny concepts of power. Yes, I am starting to see my white privilage for the First time, but struggelling to own it. I will work on this...

  • I feel educated and empowerd just now. I feel ready to start having these conversations because I know understand the origins of racism and the impact it has on others.

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    I feel comfortable ith it, and that it is the responsable thing to do in opening up these areas for conversation.

  • I feel it is something we should discuss at a team meeting, and maybe let staff know it's ok to have these uncomfortable feelings. Also, to let staff know that biases will be revealed, that this is ok, through discussions and sharing resources, we can change or manage these biases more effectivly.

  • I connected with this section, especial enjoyed learning the tools to manage microagression. It was good to hear I do not have to go around challenging them all, and knowing if im angry, dissapointed and when to address it.

  • It is good to see B;acks, Asians, and minority groups on the increase at management level.

  • I get this awkwardness in work when I raise these types of discussions for conversation. I think some people feel they are walking on eggshells and are anxiouse of saying the wrong thing. It is a world here we have to be very PC or come across as racist or some people have not explored their own beliefs. I think it is very important we have these conversations...

  • Good comment, and I tottaly agree with you.

  • I like this. I get the importance of understanding the past, and learning from it.

  • Wow, pretty shocking-all about power.

  • These realities of racism is shocking, but good are taking steps to address it.

  • These illistrations made itveasy for me to connect with equality and inequity.

  • I enjoyed the First week. Looking forward to more.

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    1) Discuss at supervission.
    2) Research equal opportunities policy.
    3) Seek out experience of others.

  • I feel I may be experiencing bias at the moment. I am not getting the opportunity as others recieved for management possitions at work. I will watch the rest of the video first though.

  • This was interesting. I would show an interest in peoples culture, but I get it, get to know some one First.

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    Wow, overload of lgislative knowledge. Good to see the Government putting so much in place to help people.

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    Pretty informative session.

  • Hi, my name is John Connor. I am looking to develop a critical eye in this area.

  • I will lean on my line manager as a trusted person.

  • I am looking forward to the course.

  • I am looking to develop proffesionaly. I would like to learn how to manage change to reduce stress, and long term planning i the here and no.

  • Looking forward to week two

  • I ould like to learn how to provide constructive feedback, and develop some skills for supervision.

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    Hi, Iook forward to discussions with new people, and learning some technics.

  • I probably needed to hear the analogy “fail gracefully.” I like things going to plan, and feel uncomfortable when they di. I suppose re aligning tasks is an area for me to be developing. Thanks for this

  • The quadrant will be a good tool to start using. It’s amazing how this role playing scenario worked. I would have liked to engage in a few more. I got them right by trial and error. The quadrant would show me that some things are not that important, but more value on the person is the principle at play, however, it can be vice versa.

  • Yes, it’s good to identify skills to be building on.i am capitalising on this skill just now also.

  • I have been practicing delegating small tasks to others. I feel the benefits of doing this, by lightening my load, it lowers stress levels, and is how a good team works.

  • I have been inspired to use follow through questions on critical feedback, as my interpretation can be screwed at times. I will also use this during discussions. I have also been inspired to start saying no more often.

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    I thought I was being professional, now found out I’ve been over committing myself. From now on I will be pausing, reflecting to my diary or saying ‘let me get back to you’. If I can’t do it, then I can’t do it, and will say so respectfully

  • Yes, I agree with you, as long as we try, we can always take the positive from it. Reflective learning is a good tool. I believe, and feel it’s better to live with knowing I tried, than never having tried. Thank you

  • Exersice regularly, good diet, make time to reflect, socialising, prioritise case load, and learn when to say ‘I would love to, but I’m actually busy just now’ instead of people pleasing.

  • To prioritise, I would say the task up against my service and team objectives,maybe even write out a list of what is more importance and who it is for. Putting a task before another task does not mean it won’t get done. .

  • I find using a diary helpful. However I’m now going to starts
    Writing in time for socialising and mindfulness.

  • I like the writing down what I’m carrying forward. Thanks for this

  • I am lucky, I attend the gym 5 mornings a week before work. Its awsome for a sense of wellbeing.

  • I feel indifferent when stress kicks in, and my rational thinking is not functioning at full capacity.

  • I take the time to ask the individual if they are ok. Listening to someone, and maybe sharemy experience is healthy.

  • A supportive management team is important; however, there is also factors outside my work that help, i,e, sleep, diet, exercising, and socialising. Also, inside the workplace sharing stress to help others is healthy, time managent, prioratising case loads, and making to do lists.

  • I agree with this comment; I think it is important to share strss to help others, however, its one of ma\ny tools we can use.

  • No matter how much awareness we have or work we do on ourselves, I will always have unconsiouce biases, hence te term "unconsiouce". It is a negative set of beliefs I have in the back of my mind. An example is 'man deserves better pay than woman'. It comes from social conditioning.

  • Yea, i was working ith someone. I recognised the different languages and sourced an interpretator.

  • This is new language to me, however, its all new learning. In our organisation we call it "ready for work week" instead of "onboarding. Semantics, differant language, same meaning.

  • This was pretty eye opening ! I realised I was using a golden ruke approach and treating all ith a treat as I would like to be treated. Now I will be more curtiouse by adapting my communication and treating each person as an individual with different styles of communication.

    With management, I am finding that being flexy reduces the gap.

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  • 1) My preference of communication style is to approach conversations directly, while being mindfull of the language im using. So I guess im direct and tactful in my approach.

    2) I need a hand on engagement to really engage with the context of whats being communicated. I suppose for me, this oud mean me asking 'do you mean.'

    3) for my leadership style I...

  • 1) Fluent leadership is leadership that can addapt to the divesity of a staff team, and the client group engaging in the service.

    2) the learship Im reflecting on had enough humility to say he didnt know somethings, and he had good people skills that enabled him to interact ith just about anyone, and he would do it respectfully.

    3) the leader I spoke...

  • I am pretty confident in my interactions with others; however, to display fluent leadership skills I am now willing to listen more to others, and manage ambiguity by making quicker decissions by believing in myself, and others.

    I am also working on accepting I dont know everything, and that the other person may kno more tghan me, and again, closing the...

  • Organisations and management are mostly hierarchial and policy driven, which makes them inflexable, and maintanes a large powwer gap. It means management and managers are becoming more and more detached from reality.

    Now we have technology, some managers are eing seen less and less.

    We talk about equality and diversity, however, does not match up with...

  • I suspect it's having a more flexable mindset in how to look at our surroundings.

  • I have a line manager who is very empathic. Through observing him I have learnt that I am still learning to listen and feel atmouspheres in teams at the same time; but also to filter out whats and not mine after I identify both atmospheres and the feelings of others. However, I am applying developing social awareness and empathy by naming the feelings of...

  • I find active listening helps me stay connected; however, im making a commitment to myself to hold my own communication with managers, however, I will be saying what I mean in a softer language, and adding to the conversation, rather than attempting to hold on and get the last word in.

  • My god, I'm just finishing an hounours degree at the University of Glasgow, and realised I through big words about ! Now i will be attempting to communicate at a level that is understanding for all, and remember it can effect others. Its about connecting, not having others feel stupid. People always remembee how you left them feeling.

    I liked the bit about...

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    Acceptance rather than rejection gets me to admit with humility that I have been driven, rather than making choices.

    Breaking put of patterns of lazyness and isolation and eating chocolate started by admitting to myselfthat I did not like tese patterns, and that I valued my health and wellbeing. This started me making healthier lifestyle changes....

  • There are Two individuals in my team, who I have disagreement with. One I am showing compassion towards, and the other I am good at getting myself out the road and placing business before personalities. I speak about both these relationships to external support to make sure i do not get hung up on them and give my power away.

  • I plan on making light of stressfull situations to put things into perspective. Also I plan on reflecting on my values each day.

    I already share my stress with others, and I am pretty kind in supporting others ith stress.

  • Balancing empathy with emotional autonomy is to save my from drowning in the quicksand. By knoing hat is mine, and what is someone elses, illl help me stay focused, listening attentivly, and communicating empathicly.

  • Empathy is a moral tool that helps connect people together.
    The risk with dark empaths to business is tem members leaving due to being forced to do things, loss of moral, and this will impact the delivery of it's service.

    Empathy would develop healthy supportive relationships. This would create a healthy staff team, a cohesivness i the team because they...

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    Empathy is about being able to understand someone elses world, their hurt, pain, joy, happyness and sadness.

    On the roads, most times, like tghis morning I could understand other drivers could not see beyong a traffif line up, I opened my windoww and waved the drivers through an opening 1 at a time. However, there is days when it is not recipricated to me...

  • Another good video. Over the years I used to pray and wish to grow, and nothing ever happened lol. Now ive learned to get comfortable with the uncomfortable by fealing the fear and doing it anyay. Ive used this to build new relationships, attend university, and no I am looking for a new job with better security and more pay.

    I liked the bit which described...

  • One was on placement when I was a student orking alongside managers. I also made a decission to attend University. Now I'm looking to recalebrate my life. Theres are pretty nervouse deccissions to have to make, but courage for me is feeling the feelings and doing it anyway.

  • Another good session. Ive learned the imprtance of understand why i'm feeling 'dissaffection' for my new job. I did not know such a word existed. Noww i know its time to re-calobrate my life.

  • I was a good one for botteling stuff up for years; I came across as very ungenuine; however, now I know as long as I am expressing myself with conviction by saying what I mean and meaning what i say, I dont walk aay holding onto bitterness. I am still a work in progress; as we discussed in awareness raising "it's a marathon, not a sprint."

  • This was interesting. I am actualy working on saying what i mean, and mean what I'm saying in a manner thats assertrive and covincing. I am looking for a job just now also. I used to to passive, and noww I am learning to be pro active.

  • Interesting times ahead eh. In our organisation we have recently observed a high outflux of workers in enhanced possitions. Personaly, I believe it's stress related vs pay. We could be looking at being more flexible with systems and resources. My personal opinion is it is due to stress and rigididness thatworkers are leaving. We dont get to see exit...

  • I was working with a group of managers and felt overwhelmed. i remember practicing soothing self talk, mndfulness, and viewing the sittuation as an area for growing, aand seperating the possitions, from people and the task at hand. It was anxiety provoking, however, this gave me the tools to work through my nervousness.

  • I have a line manager who is very humble, his emotional awareness is at the top of the scale. However, I would like to be able to chalenge my feelings that can hinder my from standing up in discussions. I can see how the secratic approach would work, i.e., leaving some one feelig valued, rather than confronted, to get an ansewr or challenging a different view...

  • I also like the secratic leadership. I am usualy the one who goes on the attack. no I have a different approach to use...

  • I work with a high performing team, who manage high levels of caseloads. For my, my on personal style of leadership is facilitive because i prefer to discuss aims, and allow a team tgheir own creatiivity to meet their own objectives in the process, ith some encouraging and one toone mentoring. Hoever, a lesson for me is learning to be addaprive and adopting...

  • I focused on the stress of a coleauge ovder the lsat couple of days. Through doing this, I was able to share openly my stress levels and the techniques I have used for myself. it helped me see my own ersonal development. Needles to say, she in now signed up to 'Lilly at Future Learn' as of Two days ago haha.

  • I loved this talk. I am still working on my patience and listening skills, instead of trying to fix people. I have found conviction and self believe over the last few years by attending university and refining my beliefs. Now I am not scared what others think of my when I have a voice different from the crowd.

  • For myself, this full section has taking me to a deaper level of self awareness, I.e., the analogy of peeling away another layer of the onion springs to mind. I used to allow being present to cripple me into freezing, now I have the information, i can hear my mid section has been telling me to challenge myself. This freezing was fear of how I looked to others....

  • This was a. Really good section. I will be working on building listening to the communication between mind and body. Body language is a big thing for me, rather than collapsing in on myself, or freezing on the spot, I plan on smiling more, challenging myself to move, and get out myself more. The self sooth information was just ace.

  • Feeling slightly excited this morning, so feel a smile come to my face as I right this. The cause of this, is this training, which im enjoying. So today I will be walking with my head heald high, and a spring in my step.

  • I like working with others. Its a good feeling to observe some one grow as a person or overcome personal inner constructs that have inhibeted them to realise their potential.

    Family, spending time with them, seeing my family do well, raise their own family, leaves me feeling to proud and happy for them.

    Education, because the more I learn, and succeed,...

  • I have a couple of examples, hich gives me areas for improvement:
    1) Performing in front of management, I feel lesser than, because I put prestige on more elevated positions, and its the pressure I put on myself to sound good, to perform good, and looking to be valued. This is a mixture of both afeelig on "high stakes", and "social judement."

    Working with...

  • The people I think about give an essence of listening to me. They say few words, but mean what they say hen they do speak.

    I feel valued and equal to the people I am thinking about, and they are confident in disagreeing with me, I am open to this, as I know they are disagreeing with my views, and this gets me reflecting, and learning.

    I feel confident...

  • I have a couple of good examples come up. One was facilitating a team meeting. I felt myself and the team were one organism, who clearly understood our aims and objectives. I clearly remembeer feeling connected ith the team, and we were functioning as one organig organism.

    In a second example, I was overwhelmed, anxiety high, couldnt think rationaly, and...

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    If someone is in a leadrership role, my experience is it's won, not just given. However, any new manager we have had start in our service, I have always been supportive from the beggining. I suppose i give the benefit of the doubt until some one proves their worth. I have faith in our staff team though. !

  • I like the matrix. I understand that being able to successfully delegate is one of the skills of agood leader ! I have recently started to develop tis skill...

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    I just learned about CIPD today...

  • I suppose for me it is first understanding the diversity of skiils, knowledge, and practice of each individual in the team. I believe this is the strengh of a team. Once that is acknowledged we can then discuss, train and work together to to deliver the aims & objectives of our service. This would be our oppertunity to bond by passing through development...

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    Hi my name is John Connor and I come from Glasgow. It is nice to meet every one. I look forward to this course and learning from each other.

  • For me I would like to develop my communication, more so in managing my stressors and petty frustrations when communicating with other proffessionals. Negotiating is a second area I would like to c=developp. Lastly, I would like to better understand knowledge of regulatry environment.

  • I am new to this area and would like to start developing knowledge, awareness, and skills on management. I am looking forward to the course and learning from others...

  • I would go for recruting from universities. Potential employees at this stage would have a higher level of academic experience and hopefully bring with them experience from other jobs, which could mean transferrable skills and information on meeting objectives.

  • I would go for c. Taking time to train people fresh from school will benefit the organisation in the longer term. People will be trained to your culture, systems, and understand your aims and objectives.