Parent stories of loss and grief

In this short video we will hear from some parents describing the loss of their twin baby and how they felt.

Here are some of the different ways parents processed their grief and their experiences of baby loss, for example:

“The nurses were very supportive…the doctors I don’t think so much, but only because they do ward rounds and they have to assess what is in front of them there and then and they are doing such an important thing aren’t they really, that’s kind of not relevant to them. I think the nurses are very good, they’d sit and listen to you talk until the cows came home which is brilliant.”

“I think if we hadn’t had [dedicated midwife] it would have been much, much more difficult. You know she was absolutely amazing all the way through and we did see her, like I said, every two weeks… so we saw her quite a lot.”

“The night I had her [twin baby who died], I was kind of put in a room on my own and no one checked on us all night, I was kind of left …, I didn’t ask for her to be brought in…I was on my own for about twelve hours. … I mean, I know she was somewhere on the ward and I knew I could get her if I wanted, but I didn’t, and now when I think about it, I don’t know why I didn’t.”

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