Surinder Ghatoray
I am an Open University Facilitator and have been with the OU since 2005. I am a registered dietitian and working in Birmingham community.
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When I first did this course, I too was worried if mindfulness was for me. As the course went on, I thought of an analogy. When my brother was learning to play the violin, it was a new skill for him and the sound he made was quite painful! As time went on....he practiced and at times things improved and at times it was painful again. Then I noticed he started...
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Firstly, mental capacity needs to be assessed. Also does her mum have LPA Health and welfare? Also the medication should not be mixed with her tube feed as it may block the tube. Flushing one tweet feed and drugs is protocol.
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Registered dietitians would get involved as part of the assessment, treatment and care package.
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As a registered dietitian and who has a family member with dysphasia, I have found this week very useful in putting things into context.
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So much to remember, struggled a bit and hope this week will be easier to understand.
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So... Having viewed the advanced information, is it impossible to have an eight pack? Both my girls had defined muscles with 4 each side?
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My daughter was a competitive gymnast and she had an eight pack. She needed these muscles to allow complex and quick tumbles so she did not injure herself. My other daughter was a competitive swimmer and she too had an eight pack, protecting her rotatory movements as she corkscrewed through the water unless she was performing the fly. I do not think it is...
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I too forget which side the appendix is.
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Nice approach. I am sure it will become crystal clear as the course continues. The cut outs could be a good party game?
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Basically I am interested in this topic area. Have just completed mindfulness and would like to do more MOOCs
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"Everything is new again, walking with a permagrin
Head so high
I'm back with you and all is right"Yep....that's a wrap......
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Yet another sunny day with you guys...oh to be there in your car and then to share a celebratory Earl grey AND latte, esp if Craig or Richard is paying☕️
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Thank you Craig and Richard...also the mentors....I can imagine it has been challenging for you all to keep up with the level of traffic on the discussion threads. I definitely have found this course invaluable personally and professionally.
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I find myself challenging my values and beliefs regularly. I like to have an open mind and try to understand others....step into their shoes. I am again challenged by what is in the news....how others can promote suffering and death in the name of a religious belief..... Hard to be mindful towards such people......
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I feel I should download the meditations and work on developing these skills. I believe I am more attentive, calmer and able to read people better so I can react more appropriately. I really wish to develop these skills and practice makes perfect....
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I have enjoyed exploring who I am, how I react, and how I engage with people and situations. I feel re doing this course will give me an added layer to my learning and development. I would love to do it again!
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I am wondering whether it is a seed that has been planted or I am about to draw up plans for a mind extension. So much has been learned and so much to reflect on.....
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The more I complete this course the more I find myself understanding the difficulties I have at present, the calmer I have become and a better listener. I am hoping this all supports my development in being a mindful person, and an excellent dietitian
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Sorry all. Really fallen behind. So busy at the moment with work, family and social life. Not had time to meditate, and I know I will look over this course and download the meditations. Have not kept journal and hoping to do this course again. I feel I have valid reasons why I am behind and not tense about it.
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Hard day to be mindful today. Family issues. Need time to reflect
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I am trying to be a mindful listener to my sister who is looking after her I'll husband who is in hospital and also my 94 yr old dad who has dementia and cancer. She is fixed in her mind that she is coping and we are all as a family trying to cover looking after dad so she can be will her very ill husband.
It is getting progressively difficult to cover as...
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I feel there are still some people in my life I cannot offer compassion to. I am not sure how I can change that or even if I wish to.
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An interesting point. As a dietitian, I have to keep electronic records and to be efficient I am typing as the person speaks. I feel I listen well and do explain to my patient that I will be typing but I am listening too. If I I need points of clarification I ask another question.
However, when I give advice or the patient and I negotiate a way forward, I...
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Craig, each day will bring different feelings, experiences and challenges. Be mindful of how you feel and consider support from whoever is able and capable of providing the support you need. Be kind to yourself.......
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Really... When the weather is so cold here and you are told it is 40 degrees where Craig and Richard are really does test my ability for compassion. I would be able to practice self compassion if I was invited there and I extend this loving kindness to all so we too can join you in the heat and calming birdsong....
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Self compassion interested me. I feel with time I will be able to practice it with myself a well as being good with others. As usual it can be difficult to not revert back to my default setting, and I am more aware of when I do. I know I find it difficult to be compassionate towards those who have made my life difficult and now I try and giv little time to...
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Craig, only you can judge if this course is what will support your feelings. Something as you have experienced does require a specialist to guide you.
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I understand it will take time to develop the ideas, feelings and skills towards self compassion, gratitude, loving, and just being. I wish to develop myself and do more with my life. I do my want to be bored or just let life pass me by.....
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I am friendly and often wish to help others. More recently I am in a position to want to help myself and will enjoy nurturing self compassion
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Wow Rosemary. You are a lovely person and kind hearted. We all need to appreciate what we have and be mindful of others and other things.
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I find it easy to be compassionate to those I have a connection with. I need to extend this compassion to others. I think I will always find it difficult to show any compassion to my husband's family and actually, I ok with that.
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I think I need to practice this more especially to those I am indifferent to.
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I deal with many patients with low self esteem and now I feel self compassion would be a better approach to use. I will adopt this approach and use some of the terminology with patients and see if this makes a difference towards behaviour change in a positive manner.
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It took me a long time to get over the loss of my husband. I became obsessed with my children, making sure they were ok. Worried all the time. Stayed at home for days in my pyjamas. I did get bereavement counselling soon after his death which did help me take out the frustration and anger I had for my husband's horrible family. I really had to work hard to get...
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Surinder Ghatoray replied to Rosemary Allen
Haha I tended to leave student marking until near the deadline. I just got on with it, marked more mindfully and gave some rally good feedback!
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I have had many comments from colleagues that "this mindfulness course had make you so chilled out!" Yes I am much calmer and truly believe that the things I can change are up to me, but the things I cannot mean I have to think differently and react differently so I can feel ok about it.
I am feeling ok that I have not had enough time to do the journal and...
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I even like the words "self compassion" better than self esteem.
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Mine are both adults now. I am quite old you know haha
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I am not a religious person. I don't really want to explain why either. I personally do not feel there needs to be any relationship between mindfulness and religion.
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Life is busy. I know I cannot multitask. I know I attention switch. I feel calmer and more accepting. There are things I am not doing t help myself, such a the meditation and the journal. I would like to do this course again. I am ok with what I am doing at the present moment and also am more aware that I worry about my children. I just want them to reach...
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Yes.... I know I cannot multitask....have been claiming it for years!
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Being a widow and having to think about the future for myself and my children is difficult. I have to plan and ....yes..... I do worry. I understand that this worrying does not help, and it is difficult to change. More work required here..... That is ok, I know I need to work on that.
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There is so much going on in my life at present and I am mindful of how each issue, situation and experience makes me feel. Being in the moment of the feelings and how I express myself has changed. What I can change or influence has more energy now. What I cannot affect or change is in context.
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I like the idea that it is not about stress avoidance, or to behalf all the time. It is all about be aware of how you are feeling and the mindfulness approach allows me to happy, sad, stressed or totally relaxed. It is ok to feel..... It is ok to be........ Just the awareness of these feelings is good.
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Surinder Ghatoray replied to Jeanette W.
I too work in an open plan office and distraction used to be a problem until I decided that to get work done, I have to focus. I tell those in the office that I am busy and not ignoring.
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Surinder Ghatoray replied to Sam Hessey
I am now mindful of how much we miss when I do dietetic consultations. I have always felt I am an active listener and notice changes in voice, body language and am aware of important aspects that require more questioning to support patients. I will be more mindful of how I conduct consultations now.
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I feel calmer now, using the body scan, but not doing it enough times in the day. I am more positive and mindful of this positivity. I am trying to smile more and be gentle and kind, plus more aware of distraction and procrastination. I still feel I need more reflection as this course is getting very thought provoking and quite honestly challenging to break...
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I feel another shot at this MOOC will be of great benefit to me. Been a bit busy with personal life at present and doing extra reading not possible. When is the available next?
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Rachel I used to do that a lot and, as you say, get annoyed with myself when I wasted a whole day finding different things to do, instead to what I should do. This has lessened with time and realising I just have to do it. I just need to learn how to do this in a mindful way and be ok with not doing some things and ok with others.
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I used to procrastinate a lot as I was scared to do things my late husband used to do. I left important things that would affect my life. Then I had a realisation that there was no one else to do these things for me and I just had to get a grip and do them. I produced an excellent filing system for different things that needed to be done. I did my husbands...
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Me too. I want to master this skill in a mindful way and not get stressed about it, which easily could happen.
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OMG... I have forgotten my journal. I started so well and with this distraction with family issues, the journal has dropped. I now need to decide if that is OK. I have been reflected and learning to be mindful, so that could be fine. Do I go back and try to write something, or start with a clean sheet? A few questions I need to ponder over.
As far as...
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I am a little distracted at present as there are 2 family issues. One is related to a relative in hospital with MS and the fact I had to get the medical care plan kick started yesterday as no one seemed to know what was going on with him. I had to use my knowlegde and assertiveness to shake things up. Today in a matter of 2 hrs, we saw the doctors, SALT and...
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I still see this family member and still feel a bit of stress, but not as much as usual. I breath and relax. The body scanning helps when I am in my own space.
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wek 2 over already. I am really enjoying this and it has supported a course I have done in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. I have enjoyed this teaching style and approach as it fits in well with my preferred learning style, being a visual learning. I like the practical aspects of the meditation, breathing and being in the moment. Thank you course team.
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I really want to be a nice person and so far I have felt happy within myself and truely believe this course is helping me cultivate the process of being gentle with myself, so I can be gentle with others. One of my colleagues made a comment today and said "What makes you such a nice person?" I did not know how to react... I just smiled...
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I too find his voice makes me engage with the meditation process.
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I seem to react better with the body scanning and breathing combo. My breathing was better because I was not focusing just on that. Being more aware of my body allowed me to breathe more appropriately. It may also be related to the voice supporting my meditation. I am connecting more....
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When I did this exercise, I found breathing difficult again as I brought my attention to the breath itself. I did not that half way through when there was a ling silent gap, I started to breathe normally and I feel this happened because I may have been trying too hard to notice my breathing. I was actually breathing normally towards the end. Could this be the...
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I think I have always been a puppy. I enjoy wondering around as I feel I get new experiences. I do appreciate the analogy though as bringing myself back to the moment helped me today to complete the tasks I had set for myself. I was drawn back to what I had to do and focused better. Of course there was still some distraction, and I could go back to my "flow"...
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as a dietitian, I am curious about the patient in front of me, asking questions, trying to be more aware of their lifestyle so I may be able to support them make informed decisions about making changes. In my personal life I lost my curiosity when my husband passed away. I did not care about what people were doing, how they were and I really did not have any...
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Ummm.....something happened with a family member at the weekend. I was very angry at a comment made and I did react.... I quickly realised what I was doing, and the only way I could calm down was to walk away from the situation, take some stock of what had been said and then discuss it with my sister to try and rationalise what had been said.
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Just found a link for the full article of the above: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Manoj_Sharma29/publication/266785081_A_systematic_review_of_mindfulness-based_stress_reduction_%28MBSR%29_in_healthy_individuals/links/55266bda0cf2ee9bad77e194.pdf
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I understand it is important t enjoy the moment and be present. I would not like to forget the future,planning for the future, remembering the past and learning from it. It is important to me to try and make sure my future is comfortable and that my children will not be affected by decisions made because of the present. At the moment I believe that... yes......
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my auto pilot 5 are: 1 eating.... 2 driving......3 walking ....4 react to the "ping" of my mobile..... 5 sitting...... I am sure there are many more, but these were the ones that came to my mind in this moment.
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It may me breathe funny and I had to think hard about breathing normally!
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I am always curious about people, what their lives may be, what they do and how they feel. I am becoming more curious about doing things I would never do and my children give me the confidence to try new things. Things I would not normally do, or do not wish to do as it reminds me of my late husband which makes me sad.
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I am doing some personal self reflection about a stress situation that I cannot share. I am hoping with mindfulness I can revisit the situation and come to terms with what happened.
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Now I know why doing the body scan lying down may not be the right way forward. It is not about relaxation, but about being in the moment. Ummm...
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I feel I still need Richard! I cannot do the body scan myself yet. I felt happy at work today. Maybe I am more relaxed, or maybe it was the time spent with my dad, and 2 sisters at the weekend. I am coming to terms that my dad has cancer and all the time we have is precious with him. I am not anxious or sad, but grateful that he is 94 yrs old and that he is my...
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I am wondering if this has to be in a sitting position. I feel for myself, lying down would work better as I would be in a more relaxed position and the sitting version to be used when I have to sit. It is easy to get distracted. need more practice. treid to download, with no success. Can only download as a bookmark.
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And this is where the hard work starts. It really is about recalibrating my mind.....
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I am beginning to be more aware that mindfulness is not about blocking things out. It is about be aware of the situation and accepting what it is. Being more accepting of others, how they are and how they feel. Being a nice person and allowing expression. Not having horrible thoughts and going back into default modes. It is hard and it is a skill to practice....
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As a healthcare professional (yes I am a dietitian), all the medical and psychological benefits of Mindfulness can only be a positive. I am really keen to develop my skills. I came to the realisation some time ago that at times you cannot change a person, but what you can do is change how you react to that person so you can be protected from upset, anger and...
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I tend to make lists for the day, couple of days ie short term and long term planning. I feel I should focus more on the day plan as sometimes I do not achieve my outcome because the task can be too big and I actually put it off. It could be achievable but I procrastinate. Ummm.... That word again. I hope to be able to reset my mindset and takes things into...
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Sorry for the late contribution. I have been in n the moment with my dad who is 94 yrs old and recording some on his stories. Being in the moment with dad does allow me to appreciate the time we have together as he becomes older and more frail. Yes there is stress of what may happen and when this may happen and the mindful approach is extremely useful for me....
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I was eating while watching the video and this was definitely a distraction.... I feel I need to manage this as I am a really good active listener at work, and at home I am so easily distracted by all the things I have to do....
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What I have found being a moderator for another Mooc, is that there are so many interesting people out there and contributing to the comments really enhances and enlightens the experience of the course.
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Interesting baseline for myself. I am happier at work than in my personal life. This is hte part I wish to change.
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I use behavioural approaches in my work, and this is more for personal gain. I lost my husband 6 yrs ago, and have been preoccuppied with being there for my grown up children. Now I feel it is my time to move on and get some perspective on my own life and move onto being a more whole person, not being distracted by the needs of others. Sounds a bit selfish,...
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Hi All, I am a registered dietitian and also moderate the Science of Nutrition. The benefits of psychological approaches towards a change in behaviour is something I do practice already, and I would like to know more about Mindfullness. I am also hoping this will make me a better practitioner in an attempt to support my patients in a meaningful way. I am...
