Christopher Wagstaff

Christopher Wagstaff

Chris is a senior lecturer in mental health nursing. He worked for the NHS for 14 years before entering higher education and is part of the 'Risk, Aggression & Violence' research programme.

Location University of Birmingham


  • Dear all,
    Thank you for your participation and comments. It is you, the participants of the course, that make it work and offer invaluable advice and support to others.
    As with other years there has been controversy and disagreement but there has also been a lot of learning and mutuality.
    Alison, Nutmeg and I are signing off now and extend a heart warming...

  • I have to say Vicci that you have been both insightful and intelligent in your discussion points. Thank you for your input.

  • The importance of individualised care!

  • Always.

  • I know that some homes do use picture boards. I think that picture boards are a sensitive subject with some people finding them quite patronising. Whereas I am sure there are other people will find them useful.

  • You are welcome to use this for training purposes Melinda, just credit the source. Glad you find it useful.

  • The transcript and subtitles for this video have now been fixed.

  • It’s a shame that you have to take time away from other people to give the time needed to someone else. But as you say, the interventions worked.

  • Some skills are always transferable.

  • As you say Christine, patience and calmness are key.

  • Indeed, laughing helps everyone.

  • Bombarding people with dialogue is a mistake that is frequently made!

  • There are lots of simple & sensible ideas which positively impact upon the care being delivered and received. Thank you.

  • Being be relaxed, calm and comfortable makes a big difference. And there also needs to ne a match between your verbal and non-verbal communication.

  • You are probably right Ian!

  • You are right Alejandra those key human skills of common sense , communication gestures, eye contact , nice tone of voice (& taking time) can make all the difference.

  • 3. Work to identify triggers and try to prevent the inappropriate behaviour from starting:

    • Keep their hands occupied with a fidget activity or sensory activity.
    • Boredom can also cause sexual behaviour. Keep your older adult happily occupied with different types of engaging activities.
    • Keep a caregiving journal of the inappropriate behaviours to...

  • 2. Explain sexual behaviour to other people
    • Dependent on the setting let family, friends, and visitors know ahead of time that inappropriate behaviour or sexual remarks might happen and that it’s caused by changes to their brain from dementia.
    • Calmly ask other adults to excuse their behaviour or advise them to step back a bit.
    • In some instances it may...

  • 1. Manage inappropriate behaviour when it happens:

    • Stay calm and be patient.
    • Gently but firmly tell the person that the behaviour is inappropriate.
    • Match your body language to your words – frown and shake your head. People with dementia are better at reading nonverbal cues.
    • Maintain consistent, firm boundaries. Don’t accidentally encourage...

  • Thank you for the comments that have already been made. An important point to stress is that sexually inappropriate behaviour is most likely to be caused by changes in the brain due to the dementia; it is not something that is being done on purpose. Dementia affects parts of the brain that control a person’s ability to control their own responses.

    There is...

  • Surely if you can make your wife laugh/ happy then surely, at some level you are successfully communicating with her?

  • & by individual care and attention.

  • Difficult and complicated behaviour was in fact quite easy to explain. But as you say it needs understanding, observation and time.

  • I agree with your point Kelly, if several (unfamiliar) people are trying to persuade Peter to do something that he understand the purpose of it is only going to lead to frustration & anger.

  • Respecting individuality is incredibly important!

  • Patience, kindness, calm, eye/ face contact, retaining a sense of humanity and understanding, thinking about your positioning, hand gestures, familiarity with people and environment all help. But as said before in the course all people are different so therefore the style of communication will be different too.

  • Sometimes it is easy to understand the root cause of the anger and frustration.

  • @MaureenMarshall without wishing to detract from the other replies, I would agree Maureen. Almost all human behaviour verbal or otherwise has some communicative value. There is a message that people are trying to send.

  • I am truly sorry to hear about this sad state of affairs. As you say, you are united by the common cause that you all love your Mum.

  • And retaining our sense of humanity is a goal which all care givers must try to aspire to. @LeonieSeeds

  • I hope you are able to may amends with your siblings Barbara ........

  • Whilst it may be your experience that some homes offer inhumane care, many homes offer absolutely excellent care.

  • Hopefully this course will be of benefit to you Rossalyn.

  • It is interesting that you are encouraging your team to participate Deidre, I am aware that a construction firm are doing the same.

  • You are right Ian, it is fascinating reading people’s reflections and unique qualities of everyone’s experience.

  • Hi Valerie, would you like to say more about what you mean by a Dementia-friendly community?

  • Hi Faye, in terms of taking care of yourself are you talking about how to feel supported or trying to be proactive to stave off dementia?

  • & if you read elsewhere in this course other people have commented on the removal of wires. Paranoia about what is happening; misunderstanding the function of the wires and people with heightened sensory perception do sometimes 'hear' the sound of electricity.

  • @MichaelO This sounds both fasinating and very personal MIchael. Certainly lots of people with dementia have perceptual disturbances and I have known people experience exagerations in colour before. Sounds like you have watched this very closely and thought of inventive solutions.

  • @BeatrizUnda Hi Beatriz, there is nothing on a national but locally there are quite often support groups. My advice is to go to the Alzheimers Society website and see what information you can glean from there. Everything they post is evidence based.

  • @JeanGold is this a recent development or has it always been a feature of your husband's dementia?
    Are there any particular times of day?
    Have you noticed any regular precipating factors?
    & importantly, what support are you getting?

  • Accepting that everyone with dementia experiences the condition differently is an important first step.