Loveth Shaibu
A law graduate, humanitarian, criminologist/intending child therapist, social worker. Strong believer in equal treatment of persons irrespective of their racial or sexual differences. Loves traveling.
Location Nigeria, West Africa
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Yes I recalled the word window and wall i was lured into that having formed the image of a room with all the words.
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This further reveals no matter how much we try we all experience inattentional blindness.
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I like DS Sund's approach because its calculative and cautious without necessarily giving the witness the reins yet encouraging the witness to think deeply about what they saw without contaminating their thought process.
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I believe both witnesses are not totally reliable because Lila for someone in distress paid attention to so much details while Seth does not have a mind of his own, He more or less was only validating what Lila has said. hence, I believe DI Bullet should have asked the guards who were at closer proximity with the robbers first before other witnesses.
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
I believe DI Bullet was asking suggestive question and also, by nudging Lila on, he has given room for her to add what she believed she saw, also, totally ignoring Seth because he is not as confident as Lila may affect the investigation. I also find the idea of questioning both of them at the same time unhelpful as it makes one witness who is not sure of...
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co witnessing is a problem. the greater problem is solving it because usually, witnesses to an event are most likely close people like friends and family thus making not discussing the event an issue. what is even more difficult about it is that some witnesses by their nature or relationship have more influence on the other witnesses hence their opinion about...
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Due to the nature of my work, I have had these experiences and one thing I can say is there is an almost invisible line between leaving them to talk and nudging them to say more without interrupting their flow of words. It all comes down to practice, the more you engage in such discussions the better you become.
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Starting the conversations from these above points is made relatively easy. however, it takes practice and conscious efforts to sustain such conversations as well as deciding what steps to take after that.
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Firstly, victim may not be able to disclose for some reasons, i.e someone like Sara who does not understand she's in an abusive marriage simply because it is not physical, a victim may also not be able because the abuser might have robbed them of freedom or mentally abused them to the point where they have accepted it as the norm.In the same vein, professional...
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
I am Loveth, a graduate of Law from Nigeria, looking forward to learning more on Human rights and International Law. particularly because, I am switching career into child support and social welfare.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Loveth Shaibu
i understand your point, only mentioned my nationality to drive home my point as well as to show the reality in my country.
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I absolutely enjoyed this week. it was enlightening and fun. i added more to my knowledge of DVA.
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Sara is experiencing serious mental, financial and emotional abuse. she is also suffering from stockholm syndrome which may make it difficult for her to break free from the husband. Ian is manipulative hence, she is more disposed to the abuse because unlike her father, Ian is not physically abusive hence, she does not see the wrong in their marriage. The...
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Anxiety, lack of trust in anyone especially professionals, inability to maintain eye contact with a professional or health practitioner, etc.
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In a country like Nigeria, some of the factors causing DVA includes;
Total financial dependence on the abuser
Religious belief of total submission to husband/parent
Love or subsisting feelings for the abuser
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Some cultures in Africa do not see abuse as abuse which should be reported or warrant divorce. hence, these makes some women more disposed to abuse than others. also, emotional attachment as well as total financial dependency on the abuser makes some victims more disposed to DVA.
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so sorry you had to go through that.However, its not too late, we can change the narrative for the coming generation.
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
i have been a victim of DVA and this in different range from sexual, physical and even emotionally and it is even a proven theory that at least one in five ladies I know have suffered same. abuse is quite common in our daily activities in Africa and in some countries like India which I have seen. hence DVA is more prevalent than we hear or read in reports.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Tolulope Alli
exactly. women are made to see it as their sole aim to protect their marriage even when DVA is involved. this is one of the reasons cases are underreported. Also, the police are not even ready to pursue such cases.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Rachel K
In addition to what you have said, reporting DVA cases to the police in countries like Nigeria is not encouraging as there is no readiness to pursue such cases or the victims are asked to handle it as family/private matters.
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I am not suprised at the statistics because DVA happens all over the world and its more common than we can imagine. however, i believe one of the factors contributing to its inaccuracy is that most victims are either still nursing the thoughts that their perpetrators are just going through a bad phase, the abuse is due to their own fault or they want to...
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Exactly. spending that amount of money in efforts and resources shows how much the country puts the wellbeing of their citizens.
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The quiz is quite enlightening and yes most people know about the prevalence of DVA. However, it is not about them not being aware but some based on culture, religious believe and other factors have been made to see DVA in all forms as a norm. especially in Africa, some women believe in making their marriages work at all cost even though their partners are...
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Even though DVA has been of particular interest to me, this course has not only helped me more, it has also enlightened me to other aspects of the course. thanks to fellow learners and the course lead. its been an amazing first week.
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i can personally can relate to this being a Nigerian who have on many occassions seen cases where citizens would rather walk away or pretend not too because sometimes getting involved could mean you going to the police station more times than necessary and may end up being implicated in the crime you tried to avoid hence the reason for the neglect and another...
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This course is quite interesting and what I enjoy more is the interactive interface.
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i will definitely check that out.
Regards
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Well, coming from a black person, I think people of colour really get the worst of it.
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you are right and I reason with your point of view.
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In as much as eyewitness evidence is very important as to help mitigate the stress in rounding up different people, however,it will be difficult to achieve an untainted case if the police in charge of the case are keen on getting a culprit rather than following the facts without leading the witnesses on or asking suggestive questions which may affect the mind...
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this is quite interesting
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research showing that children's testimonies are more reliable can also give room to further research because nothing is a one size fits all and children cannot be presumed to be all innocent. children differ based on upbringing, enviroment and other factors.
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I'm anticipating the rest
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Sarah's story is a typical story of what victims of abuse experience in their homes. They see nothing wrong in what their partners are doing because that is what they've been brainwashed to believe in the course of the relationship. That is why she believes his dropping and picking her off at work plus calling during work hours is him caring about her.
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Yes I know that DVA includes all of this and can take any form at any time.
In Nigeria, coercive control in itself is not illegal unless it has become physically violent of which there has to have been physical evidences against the perpetrator. -
DVA although sounds physical and people usually attribute it to just physical abuse, however, it goes beyond that, it includes sexual, verbal and even psychological abuse of a person.
In my profession DVA includes all of the above named instances. However, some are punishable while some are not based on the evidence gotten of such act perpetrated against the... -
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Although women are more victims of DVA it doesn't change the fact that men are also victims. Thus, gender shouldn't be the only consideration in dealing with domestic abuse.
Our understanding of Domestic violence abuse equips us with the knowledge of how to protect ourselves from any forms of violence and precautions to take to avoid one, it also helps us to... -
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The media have always been with the traditional idea that men are always to rescue women, women are weak and helpless and that a woman needs a man for fulfilment. Although, I'm not saying a woman doesn't need a man but in movies its been portrayed that the whole essence of a woman is for a man. Apart from the fact that this is a bad image being painted to the...
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Well, I believe resistance are learnt rather than being born with it, because, our resistance will be dependent on;
1. Our background
2. Our environment
3. The kind of people we are surrounded with,
4. Our own readiness to evolve
Hence, resilience is more of a learnt skill than our innate nature. -
@JonArnot-Smith that's true belief in a skill comes from exercising that skill
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@JonArnot-Smith that's true belief in a skill comes from exercising that skill
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Lisa Anang
I really can relate to your point on the "unreadiness" to go back to school because I've been there and I knew it wasn't an impulsive decision but my inner instincts.
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True. However, there are situations where the decisions have to be made instantaneously without room for checking if that's the best decision.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to peter odika
Nice point.
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1. Yes, there are times I have made decisions based on trusting my inner instincts and most times they turned out well. This spans across relationships, businesses and career.
2. The fear if failure, the fear that what if the intended project isn't worth it or what if it was just a passing thought which doesn't not worth my time.
3. One very important skill... -
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In my opinion, being generative as used by Leitch simply means, capacity building (mentally, health wise, etc) Being prepared for whatever life throws at you, being able to adapt to whatever situation one finds herself and the ability to welcome a shift in situations.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Richard Horner
These are great points and quite exhaustive. I love in particular the way the points are highlighted. I couldn't agree more.
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True. Its not a one size fits because each person deals with issues the way each deems fit for their mental and psychological health.
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I love the phrase "advancement after adversity"
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I love your approach
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According to google, resilience is how well a person can adapt to the events in their life. Looking at resilience from the Hunan perspective, resilience in this sense is the ability to bounce back in a better way than one has been before a particular occurrence. The question that begs to be answered now is, does being resilient necessarily means one is...
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Gill McKenzie
I like your point of view. It's quite interesting
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What I think about the phrase 'vulnerable but invincible' used to me means persons who although are vulnerable by virtue of their past experiences but by virtue of what they've made of their lives are unbeaten.
Yes I believe being invincible and being resilient can be said to mean the same because they both mean being unbeaten, undefeated irrespective if what... -
I'm glad you pulled through
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You're not alone
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
The things that got me through was discussing it with friend and listening to soul lifting songs.
What got in my way was;
1. My overthinking habit which tends to make me overwork my brain
2. My attitude of always wanting things to be perfectly done which robs me of the joy that comes with little achievements -
Loveth Shaibu replied to Lyall Duffus
@LyallDuffus I agree with you. The level of engagement of other students makes one to get involved in the class discussions because one can easily relate with different opinions.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Alison Bond
True. Curiosity is very vital of the three C's because it makes one want to know more which helps one to be constructive and right after that comes compassionate because it helps us live in peace and harmony with other people irrespective of our differences.
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@AshleyAnderson this is a great point. I also enjoy courses when the classes are engaging and students contribute it helps to learn more from different perspectives.
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That's the sad reality, most of these kids are already treading the path we treaded. Its high time education and academic curriculum are adjusted all over the world to accommodate this philosophy of non gender role expectations.
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True, We've had our lives programmed in a particular way based on our genders.
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True
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
In my opinion, there shouldn't be gender expectations because the fact that someone is physically of a particular gender doesn't mean that have to act in a particular stereotypical way as expected of the society. It shouldn't also be a determinant of their choice if career or life decisions generally. Although this may be hard to achieve but it is not...
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I joined this course because of my interest in the rights of the abused. I am a humanitarian and a social work, I'm also intending to have my own NGO which deals with victims of abuse. This course will enlighten me and expose me to how to deal with such victims and hopefully how their case should be handled
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Laura Sánchez Montalvo
Exactly, insecurity for women is not a function of your state or locality but a global issue
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Loveth Shaibu replied to [Learner left FutureLearn]
Yeah. Most female gender can relate more to Laura except for a few who have had either trainings in martial arts or have been exposed to a more confident lifestyle
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Deb Linsky
@DebLinsky true. Tom's way of walking doesn't apply generally to all men because our personal experiences as well as our background determines our reactions and perceptions
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Parveen Ali
@Lynette(Lyn)Bushell I agree with you. There's a stage especially adolescence where young people tend to live life on the edge, thinking some things cannot happen to them.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Parveen Ali
@ThereseGrace truthfully, its both the society got more dangerous and that changed the societal perception of people with regards to their security.
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That's true. Wealth increase only changes your social status not necessarily how you feel about your security because that is mostly psychological.
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I've also been a victim of late night walking and I can relate to the fears
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I guess being trained in martial arts is one among other reasons why you feel safe walking alone at night
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Its true in my own location that women feel insecure and are afraid to walk at night, apart from the fact that women are usually targets of all vices, they're also seen as always the ones to be blamed if anything happens to them.
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@Bolanle(@Stereogoddess) I concur
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Mayowa Olukehinde
True
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#1.I feel great about completing week 1. Apart from the fact that the videos were quite insightful and straightforward, the classes are very interesting.
#2. I learnt quite a lot from the videos of Mahle to always not be judgemental of other people if you don't understand their culture nor take steps to get to know it, I also learnt to not only be... -
Guess we have the same strong points
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Openness, this construct has particularly helped me to make meaningful and long term friendship with people of other race and regions on social media through the way we engaged or public posts or timelines.
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Concise and lovely points
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Loveth Shaibu replied to J F
I like this
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#1. I feel good, as Dr Swallow's vidoe is more simplified version of Mr Riccardi
#2. We must learn to understand the culture and cultural belief of a people before delving into activities relating to such culture
#3. It relates that there are diverse customs, beliefs, cultures which are as diverse as humans themselves
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Good points
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Lovely
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
#1. The video is quite thought provoking
#2. I learnt from Mr Riccardo that our perception about things varies from one culture to the other
#3. The understanding of this helps to always get to know people, their beliefs before taking decisions or making assumptions
#4. The most important reason to develop intercultural competence is to prevent... -
I like this
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I concur
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
In my opinion, a good mental health is a balanced mentals health, it is a situation where an individual has found a balance between whatever they go through in life whether good or bad and not allowing it to control them. It is the ability to recognise what us happening at every point and making sure one makes the best out of it.
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Christiane Nagayassu
@ChristianeNagayassu that's a good approach
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Sarah Summers
You're definitely right
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Loveth Shaibu replied to Sarah Summers
@SarahSummers I second this
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
I will like to say that the behaviour of the fruit vendor was outright rude irrespective of racial differences, rudeness is the same, however, if I were to be Mahle, I wouldn't react immediately until I get to discuss is with someone who understands the way things are done in the environment.
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Hi everyone, I am Loveth from Nigeria, a law graduate and a social worker and humanitarian, I'll love to take this course to hone my skills in mental health as well as to help know how to handle someone suffering from mental illness. I expect to learn what mental health is about, causes of mental illness as well as precautions to be taken. I also hope to learn...
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Hello everyone, I'm Loveth from Nigeria and I'll love to know more about mental health, causes and treatment as well as precautions to be taken to prevent mental illness.
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Loveth Shaibu made a comment
Hello everyone, I am Loveth from Nigeria. I am a law graduate seeking a career in human resources management and economic related field. I am also a lover of volunteering work and I have an NGO to my name which caters for the needs of victims of abuse and violence. Taking this cours will not only help my career but also help my social life, it will as well get...
